Thursday 27 December 2012

How to Stop Fearing Big Changes


Transitions aren’t always easy.  But everyone has to face them at one time or another.
I’ve gone through a lot of big changes in my life.  Some were bad, some were good.  Each time I faced that point of transition when things started to change, I would take a step back, pause for a moment and remind myself that there would be something good waiting for me on the other side of the transition.
It’s that thought of something good waiting for me on the other side that helps so much.  That reminder that things will be better makes the big change more palatable.
Something I’ve learned is that the change or transition itself isn’t very frightening.  What’s scary is the thought of ending up in a miserable place by the time you get through it.
The thought of ending up somewhere terrible used to prevent me from making necessary and useful changes.  For instance, over ten years ago I decided to move almost 300 miles away from the city I grew up in to a major metropolis.  It was a decision I’d contemplated for years, but I never had found the courage to do it.
I wasn’t afraid of the change.  In fact, it was the opposite. I wanted to go through this transition to make the change happen.
What scared me was the thought of all these terrible things happening to me once I had made the transition.  I was afraid I would spend all this money moving only to end up jobless and alone in a big city.  What if it turned out to be a huge mistake in the end?
Of course, that never happened.
My worst fears never came true.  By the time I had reached the other side of the transition, I had gained more than I even expected.  Not only did I find a job and make a lot of new friends, but also met a woman who I would eventually go on to marry.
The experience of moving to a big city changed how I see transitions and life changes.
No longer do I fear a transition because of what I imagine might be waiting for me on the other side.  I don’t worry about all the bad things that could happen to me.   There are no worst-case scenarios playing out on in my head.
Now I prefer to think of things in terms of best-case scenarios.  What will be the best possible outcome waiting for me on the other side of this life change?  It’s helped build a lot of faith in my decisions for change.
I find that there are three things that really help me build this faith in the other side of big changes:
Trust in yourself and your abilities.
All changes require good decision-making.  You need to trust that you know the best decisions for your life and that the choices you make will be the correct ones.
Whether it’s quitting your job to find something better or moving to another country, you’re going to face a lot of new challenges and obstacles.
Most people underestimate their ability to successfully make it through a hard transition.  But often you have more skills and abilities than you realize.
The worst-case scenario won’t happen.
Right before you decide to take a chance, embrace that change and make a bold step towards something you want, a nasty thought will pop into your head.  It’s the shrill lingering thought that something absolutely horrible will happen if you do it.
These are the worst-case scenarios.  You tell yourself, “if I quit my job, I’ll end up penniless and homeless.”  Or you think, “Traveling will only get me kidnapped or murdered.”
For some reason, these thoughts are easy to think.  What’s harder is imagining the other side of the transition as something good.  The other side can be an opportunity for growth and your ticket to a better life.
Worst-case scenarios happen so rarely that you might as well be afraid of being struck by lightning.  Thinking of all the bad things waiting for you will only prevent you from taking necessary actions to change your life.
Above all: remain optimistic.
Like I said earlier, thinking that the other side will be worse is often a greater fear than the actual change itself.  So remaining optimistic about your transition is necessary to make sure that fear doesn’t creep inside your head.
Depending on how long your transition takes, it could be a while before you see the end.  You need to keep believing things will be okay.  Your optimism will keep you working towards the other side.
The minute you turn pessimistic, you start to expect things to go badly.  And once you expect things to go badly, they often will.
Make your change happen.
As I continue on through my life, I expect to continue making more and more decisions about where I want things to go.  That will mean a lot more transitions and changes to come.  But now I have faith that the other side of those transitions and changes will be positive and fulfilling.
You can’t be scared of making a big change simply because you’re afraid things will turn out badly for you.  Have faith that things will be good in the end.  It’s surprising how often they work out for the best.

Saturday 22 December 2012

There's No Right Way to Live Your Life

From the time we were infants, we were told that there is a “right” way to live your life.  Therefore, your job is to find that right way.  Everyone has an opinion about how you should live.  Some think you should pursue spiritual growth, personal development, and perfect yourself.  Some think you should get involved with acts of kindness.  Some think you should save the world, or have the right politics, or adopt the right belief. We have been sold a bill of goods.
 
Most everyone has, somewhere in the back of his or her mind, an image of the correct way to live.  Most people are not aware of how much they have taken on the concept of how they should live their lives, so the concept remains unnoticed even when it is a major influence in how they think of goals, values, symbols of success and failure, where they should be at certain ages, the types of relationships, family, career, home, or organizations to which they should belong.
 
Good chance you have an unknown image in the recesses of your mind. This image will plague you until it is confronted.  Sometimes the image comes from role models you admired in your youth.  For some, it’s James Bond; for some, it’s their favorite rock star.  Maybe it’s an astronaut like Neil Armstrong.  Maybe it’s Mother Teresa or Amelia Earhart.  Maybe it is a combination of several role models, all mixed up, all vying for your attention and acquiescence.  One thing that is important to know is that you will never be able to live up to that concept.
  
Of course, many like to put themselves in a position of authority about how you should live.  For some, it’s a business opportunity sold with theories and promises of happiness, success, and rewards.  For others, it is a calling in that they feel compelled to spread their hypothesis of how life should be lived.  For others, it is confirmation of their own belief systems, because they feel that the more people who agree with them, the more validity their beliefs have.  For others, it’s a way to pass the day, as they think about their friends’ and families’ lives, and how they would change the way those people would live.  As they say about certain parts of the human anatomy, everyone has got an opinion about the right way to live.
 
Who can say to what you should aspire, or what you should hold dear, or who you should love, or what you should think.  Of course, this can be a scary thought.  Freedom is a hard issue for most people.  One thing that makes it hard is a common confusion which can be captured in this one common reaction to the idea that often comes up when freedom is discussed, “No one is free to throw their garbage on my lawn.”
 
Throwing your garbage on someone else’s lawn is not a question of freedom.  It is a question of sovereignty.  It is about ownership and jurisdiction.  But, when pursing that line of attack, the deeper issue of your freedom to live your life anyway you see fit gets lost.
 
The basic misconception that generates the dogmatic pronouncements about how you should live comes from society’s notion about people.  The underlying assumption is that people can’t be trusted, and, therefore, left to their own devices, they will be destructive.  So, therefore, people need to be controlled.  If you thought this, you would feel that it is critical to tell others how to live.
 
Yet, when people are truly free to make their own choices, they choose health over sickness, love and relationships over hate and strife, productive and meaningful work over meaningless and fruitless endeavors, and to join together to support each other for the common good rather than isolate themselves in a survival of the most selfish game-theory and paranoid vision of a hostile world.
 
What does it take to enjoy such freedom?  It takes freeing the mind from the chains of all concepts.  Concepts are not reality.  That’s why they are concepts.  You don’t need a concept to know what you are tasting, or smelling, or touching, or hearing.  Your senses are designed to perceive reality so that you can make decisions about what you will do in the circumstances.  Yet, so much of our world is in love with concepts.  And why not?  You never have to prove a concept in reality.  And if a concept turns out to reflect reality, it is no longer a concept, but a known fact.  Freedom, like life itself, happens in reality, not in your mind.  And freedom of thought is a building block for organizing your life based on your highest aspirations and deepest values.
 
The next thing it takes to enjoy such freedom is mastery of the creative process.  If you can’t create what you truly want, you can wish all you want, but your chances are slim.  Not all things that people want are possible.  But we have been taught from our earliest moments on this planet that you can’t have what you want.  At least, not what you REALLY want.  And, of course, all the experts in how we should live have their lists of what we should want.  But, if you are free of concepts, if you no longer have to uphold the image that is in the back of your mind about how you should be, you can re investigate what you might really want.  But this is more than discovery.  It is an evolutionary process.  And here is where the creative process becomes so essential.  You can learn how to think in terms of what you truly want by creating the small things you want first.  A meal, a look for a room, a dinner party, a blog you write, a small flower bed, and on and on it can go.  You become decisive by making decisions.  You build your creative muscle by creating.  Soon you will find that, while many things you may want are not possible, many more are.  Over time and experience, your vision of your own life becomes more your own.  And while many people might have an opinion, no one has a vote.
 
There is no right way to live your life.  But there is YOUR way.  And that’s all that counts.

https://www.wisepond.com/blogs/2012/12/17/theres-no-right-way-live-your-life

Wednesday 19 December 2012

Women Gaining Self Confidence Through Self-Improvement And Positive Thought


It is common knowledge that men tend to overrate their intellectual abilities. By the same token, women tend to downplay their own. While men often believe they are far more attractive than they actually are, women believe the opposite as well. It is unclear why these differences in confidence levels exist between men and women, but the phenomenon explains why women must work harder to build and maintain a healthy self-esteem. In fact, women gaining self confidence is a common topic in the self-help world.
The good news, however, is that women can quickly boost their confidence if they are willing to make a few changes in the way they think about themselves and life. With the benefits being increased happiness and paving the road to more successful relationships with those around them, it is worth the effort.
Easy Tips To Improve Self-Esteem:
Improve personal appearance. The easiest and quickest way for women to increase self-esteem is to improve their personal appearance. While looks should not matter in a perfect world, this is not a perfect world and an individual's appearance is important. People respond better to others that present themselves in a neat, clean way that says that they care about their appearance.
Luckily, improving one's appearance does not have to be expensive. By researching inexpensive home beauty tips, a woman can immediately take steps towards feeling better. This increased confidence provides motivation to take additional steps towards increased self-esteem.
Foster appreciation. Doing this properly requires an understanding of how human beings work. The physical goal of the human species is survival. Therefore, the automatic part of the human brain works to do this by picking out the negative in the environment. This system keeps the person on alert for potential dangers. The problem is that since it is weighted heavily towards the negative, if all a woman listens to is her automatic thoughts she will overlook the positive aspects of her life and become depressed.
Fortunately, all people also have the ability to choose thoughts. This is why a daily appreciation practice stressing thankfulness is such an important factor when it comes to self-esteem. If a woman does not recognize the blessings of the friends and family that care for her, and that all her basic needs are satisfied, then she will be destined to live feeling that nothing in her world is good enough, including herself. To combat this, it is important to take a moment to be thankful for the good in one's life every day.
Practice affirmations. Thoughts dictate the way people feel and, as discussed above, it is important to take responsibility for controlling these thoughts. Just as it is imperative to be appreciative every day, it is also imperative that a woman recognize her own value as well. To increase self-esteem, a woman should actively and regularly insert positive thoughts into her thought stream while learning to let go of the negative.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Women-Gaining-Self-Confidence-Through-Self-Improvement-And-Positive-Thought&id=7420836

Saturday 15 December 2012

80-Year-Olds with Brains That Look and Act As If They Were 30


From ScienceDaily (Aug. 16, 2012)
Medicine has looked at what is wrong with us for over a hundred years. Yet with the advent of positive psychology, researchers are beginning to ask what is right with us. Northwestern researcher Emily Rogalski asked what goes right in the brains of the elderly who have terrific memories. And, do such people — known as cognitive SuperAgers — even exist?
Rogalski’s latest study has identified for the first time ever a resilient group of people over the age of 80 whose memory and attention are as functional as people 30 years younger.
In particular, the vitality of the SuperAgers’ cortex was impressive. The cortex is the outer layer of the brain and is critical for memory, attention and other executive functions.  SuperAgers’ cortex was much thicker than the cortex of the normal group of folks aged 80 and older (whose showed significant thinning) and more closely resembled the cortex size of participants ages 50 to 65, considered the middle-aged group of the study.
“These findings are remarkable given the fact that grey matter or brain cell loss is a common part of normal aging,” said Rogalski, the principal investigator of the study and an assistant research professor at the Cognitive Neurology and Alzheimer’s Disease Center at Northwestern University School of Medicine.
By identifying older people who seem to be uniquely protected from the deterioration of memory and atrophy of brain cells that accompanies aging, Rogalski hopes to unlock the secrets of their youthful brains. Those discoveries may be applied to protect others from memory loss or even Alzheimer’s disease.
“By looking at a really healthy older brain, we can start to deduce how SuperAgers are able to maintain their good memory,” Rogalski stated. “Many scientists study what’s wrong with the brain, but maybe we can ultimately help Alzheimer’s patients by figuring out what goes right in the brain of SuperAgers. What we learn from these healthy brains may inform our strategies for improving quality of life for the elderly and for combatting Alzheimer’s disease.”
In another region deep in the brain, the anterior cingulate of SuperAger participants’ was actually thicker than in the 50 to 65 year olds.
“This is pretty incredible,” Rogalski said. “This region is important for attention. Attention supports memory. Perhaps the SuperAgers have really keen attention and that supports their exceptional memories.”
Only 10 percent of the people who “thought they had outstanding memories” met the criteria for the study. To be defined as a SuperAger, the participants needed to score at or above the norm of the 50 to 65 year olds on memory screenings.
“These are a special group of people,” Rogalski said. They aren’t growing on trees.”
For the study, Rogalski viewed the MRI scans of 12 Chicago-area Superager participants’ brains and screened their memory and other cognitive abilities. The study included 10 normally aging elderly participants who were an average age of 83.1 and 14 middle-aged participants who were an average age of 57.9. There were not significant differences in education among the groups.
Most of the SuperAger participants plan to donate their brains to the study. “By studying their brains we can link the attributes of the living person to the underlying cellular features,” Rogalski said.
Set your goal to be a SuperAger. Act AS IF your memory and attention are growing stronger with age.
To life, love and laughter,
John Schinnerer, Ph.D.
Positive Psychology Coach
Author of the award-winning Guide To Self: The Beginner’s Guide To Managing Emotion & Thought
Guide To Self, Inc.

Sunday 9 December 2012

What is Subconscious Mind

The dictionary meaning of the word conscious means to be aware of or to know, while sub means below or under. We could say then when the two meanings are put together that subconscious is an awareness of what's below or hidden from conscious view. When we ask the question what is subconscious mind the answer becomes much simpler to understand when the general meaning of consciousness is kept in the background of the mind and referred to simply as a state of extra mind awareness.


The substance of human consciousness itself is an awareness formed out of matter and energy whose frequencies of sound and light are condensed into words, thoughts, feelings and actions. There are many smaller streams of consciousness which make up a whole range of thoughts and feelings which occupy our consciousness in day to day living. (Something like 60,000 thoughts pass through our mind on average every day). Smaller streams of consciousness are created from main blue prints or patterns of mental consciousness whose vibrations vary in degrees of refinement. Such as for example thoughts whose substance is of a particular vibration and frequency which creates different patterns of consciousness such as spiritual, family, wealth, or career, and relationship patterns. In turn the main blueprints of each generic pattern are formed out of the one basic pattern of consciousness itself which is often referred to as cosmic or universal consciousness.
Conscious-Subconscious and Unconscious

In the context of this article on what is subconscious mind, human consciousness has been classified into the three main categories of consciousness commonly accepted by all. The subconscious is a level of consciousness that exists between the conscious and the unconscious level of mind. The conscious mind is the awakened state and is the most easily recognizable state of awareness. The conscious part of mind is the awareness we experience through our senses and the outside world and also the awareness we experience as a result of our thoughts and feelings and the use of our reason and logic. The conscious mind also draws upon experiences of the inner world such as those thoughts, feelings and images which are stored in our subconscious awareness.

The unconscious even though it is still a part of consciousness as a whole, is a different part of the mind awareness. It is a deeper level of mind energy where patterns of behavior are buried and usually referred to as collective archetypes that stem from the unconscious patterns of humanity’s genetic history. The unconscious exists as a quality of subtle awareness energy which is not noticeably recognized by the conscious mind. Archetypal expressions of unconscious energies pass through the realm of the subconscious where their meanings are interpreted as subconscious states of an individuals awareness to make them more suitable for comprehension by our conscious reasoning mind.

The subconscious is the receiver and transmitter of information between the conscious and unconscious. It is the retainer for behavioral patterns of consciousness in relation to, memory, genetic and cultural behavior, plus the genetic records of both humanity and an individual’s life history. Awareness of the subconscious is communicated in the form of intelligence via symbols, images and word pictures and abstract meanings. The subconscious is also the well trodden path to higher states of awareness where the soul and spiritual dimensions and divine and cosmic states of awareness can be found. It is through programming our subconscious desires and beliefs and values a person can tap into  and retrieve information via their intuitive awareness from these higher states of consciousness connected with the subconscious and beyond.
Re-Programming the Subconscious
The subconscious is the place to go to discover powerful desires and re-program beliefs and connect to one’s creative powers. A belief system is formed out of patterns of behavior which are created by emotions, thoughts, spiritual and physical plane experiences. Awareness of the kinds of beliefs which make up our impulses, drives, motivations, goals and accomplishments is part of subconscious reprogramming.
 Sub conscious beliefs are worth investigating for transformational changes because they hold the memory of thoughts, feelings and images we hold about life in terms of self- awareness and discovery of who we are and what we rightly believe in. By working out which ones are useful and which ones aren’t can give the right reasons for example for the accomplishment of goals and aims in life and also make them much easier to attain. Subconscious beliefs can be recreated, changed or transcended through self-knowledge and self-inquiry techniques.
Patterns of the Subconscious
Subconscious archetypes, symbols and images also form another part of the answer to what is subconscious mind. Subconscious archetypes are similar in awareness to archetypes of the unconscious however they differ in the sense that subconscious archetypes of a person are more likely to be identified with their individual beliefs and behavior patterns connected with their own particular subconscious awareness’s rather than the overall blue print patterns and beliefs of the collective unconscious of humanity even though they may draw from the group mind of humanity.

Subconscious archetypes stem from core beliefs and meanings of an individual’s innate characteristics in which they draw from and identify with to show them what their particular beliefs are and reflection of the type of thoughts and feelings they experience on a subconscious level. Subconscious archetypes reveal powerful traits associated with a person’s awareness of how they view their image and sense of self.

Symbols have their relationship with thoughts and feelings and reflect beliefs and patterns of behavior where comprehension of their relative meaning opens up the mind and increases extra perception in awareness of symbols as a form of guidance and which can give direction and greater purpose to life.

Images are the pictures and word pictures which are formed in the subconscious mind by our imagination. Development of awareness of subconscious images helps a person connect with their ideas and creative forms of expression. Along with symbols images are a way to access the beauty of soul and higher states of awareness. Every picture tells a story, is a truth which makes images an important aspect of subconscious awareness. Images are the seeds for the creation and visualization of new thought forms and feelings to appear from the subconscious which better serve purpose and patterns of new growth.

Use of subconscious image awareness can serve as a vital part in the conscious use of the imagination as a catalyst to attain to higher states of consciousness, where a person activates their creative intelligence through abstract thinking and ideas which are accessed through subconscious awareness’s as a means for giving them a better conscious expression.
Subconscious Principles

Principles of subconscious awareness relate to the creative moral power of sub-conscious mind activities. Principles help define the values of subconscious beliefs and mind awareness techniques. They help with the empowerment and higher states of creative awareness whose sub-conscious expressions are consciously expressed as a result of the minds attunement to levels beyond normal everyday awareness. As such subconscious principles are guidelines for the individual to use in subconscious exploration and travelling in relation to information about realities beyond the purely physical world.

When we ask ourselves the question what is subconscious mind the answer should also include the benefits as well. Some of the benefits of subconscious awareness are insight and discovery of new beliefs and ideas, greater self- control and awareness of one’s potentialities and a much better grasp of the nature of intelligence and the mind. Beneficial states of higher awareness and meaning are attained also as a result of the self –knowledge and the deciphering of symbols and archetypes whose images and meanings reflect the presence of higher states of mind awareness not encountered before which provide a person with a much more expanded and appreciative view of life beyond the normal boundaries of the conscious mind.
The subconscious supports the conscious mind. Life can be governed better through productive and affirmative changes of greater mind awareness caused by practical and productive use of the subconscious which a person can use as a means for achievements and purpose for meaningful discovery and initiative in new life projects and developments.         

Saturday 8 December 2012

Mind Secrets Exposed


The human mind is an amazing machine and is capable of some miraculous feats that confuse the most learned scientist. We know little of the mind, except that it is powerful and we don’t tap into its full potential. There are plenty of people who are interested in uncovering the truth about the mind and utilizing its full power. There are a corresponding number of self-help books available on the Internet that claim to allow access to these hidden depths – but most of them fail to deliver on their promise.
But here comes Greg Frost and his latest book, Mind Secrets Exposed. This book is a great tool for anyone who wants to enhance their mind and the quality of their life and the best part is that this book works. Mind Secrets Exposed is filled with comprehensive information on how the mind works and how one can tap into its potential. Greg Frost also provides great techniques and strategies for accessing the full power of the mind, from visualization to focusing exercises, allowing the reader to accomplish anything they want.
The book comes in the standard e-book format, as well as an audiobook, for those who want to access the contents on the go. Each chapter focuses on a different part of the mind and how to fully utilize that function to achieve success and accomplish goals. The end of each chapter is capped off with exercises and guides, providing the reader with several ways to apply the concepts discussed in the chapter in real-life. These efficient guides add practicality and applicability to the theories found in Mind Secrets Exposed.


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Success Monthly also comes with a coaching system that provides an in-depth guide on enhancing success and becoming more productive, efficient and effective. The coaching system comes in video format and consists of a definitive guide on becoming an achiever in a direct, easily understandable manner.
The newsletter is made available for those who become members, which requires paying a monthly fee. For those who might think that this is too much of an investment, buying Mind Secrets Exposed gives you the first month for free, allowing you access to the newsletter and letting you judge its worth for yourself. I heartily recommend becoming a member, as the newsletter contains valuable information and content that cannot be found elsewhere.
In short, Mind Secrets Exposed, and all of the supplementary materials that come with it, is one of the few books available that truly explore the depths of the mind and provides effective techniques on using its full power. For its incredibly affordable price, Mind Secrets Exposed is a valuable resource that cannot be overlooked. I recommend this book 100% and suggest you get your copy as soon as possible.

Friday 7 December 2012

Plodding and Bursting


Plodding and bursting are two different strategies for getting things done. Understanding these two modes will help you in two ways. First, you’ll be able to identify your own default mode, so you can better take advantage of it. And second, you’ll be able to understand others who prefer your non-dominant mode, so you can relate to them more effectively.

Plodding

Plodding means persevering with a steady and stable workflow day after day.
A nice example of plodding is Jiro from the movie Jiro Dreams of Sushi. He followed essentially the same work routine every day for decades and became one of the best sushi chefs in the world as a result.
A plodding writer would focus on writing every day, in essentially the same place, at the same time, and in the same manner. This approach could be used to create articles as well as larger works. An example of such a writer is Danielle Steele, who’s written more than 100 books. She’s said in interviews that she has a very disciplined work schedule, basically following the same work routine day after day to complete book after book.

Bursting

Bursting means working in short, temporary cycles of highly focused work while tuning out anything unrelated to the project at hand.
A good example of bursting is when Sylvester Stallone wrote the script for the movie Rocky. Stallone saw an interesting boxing match in March 1975, got inspired, and wrote the whole script in 20 hours straight, spread over 3 days.
A bursting writer catches waves of inspiration and rides them to the completion of some creative work as quickly as possible. An example of a bursting writer is Dan Poynter. He’s written many how-to books and has shared that he likes to complete a new book in about 2 weeks. When he’s ready to write the book, he puts everything else aside and gets the book done, working long hours during that time to see it through to completion. This approach has worked very well for him.

Hybrid Approaches

As you may suspect, you can combine these two approaches in different ways.
For example, you could use bursting to prototype a new software application, then plodding to turn it into a completed product, then bursting to launch it, and then plodding to handle the ongoing marketing and sales.
As another example, you could use bursting to shift yourself towards a healthier lifestyle, such as by spending a weekend clearing all junk food out of your kitchen, picking healthier recipes, restocking your kitchen with healthier food, signing up for exercise classes, and putting the classes you selected onto your calendar. Then once you’ve made those initial changes, you could switch to plodding mode to condition some new habits and to maintain them thereafter.
When it comes to personal growth, quite often you’ll see a bursting pattern being very effective for pushing through resistance to create an initial change, and then plodding takes over for long-term maintenance. This works for relationship changes, career changes, financial changes, health changes, and more.

Your Dominant Mode

Most likely you’ll observe that you’re much better at applying one of these modes than the other. For instance, you may be great at plodding, but you just can’t summon the energy or inspiration required to really blast through to bigger changes. Or you may be great at bursting, initiating new changes with explosive energy, but you have a tough time maintaining momentum beyond that point.
Plodding and bursting exist along a spectrum. You may be near the middle, feeling competent using either mode, or you may be near the edges, vastly preferring one mode over the other.
What do you do if you discover that you’re really great at one mode but not so great at the other?
First, accept that this is how you are. Instead of lamenting your weakness, think about how you could squeeze even more juice out of your dominant mode. In other words, instead of trying to move towards the middle, consider exploring the extremes of your strength.
So if you’re a plodder, ask yourself how you can become one of the best plodders ever. Think about how you might structure your day into a well-orchestrated performance from the time you get up to the time you go to bed. Turn your goals into habits. Focus on getting your daily routine just right so that if you essentially repeat it over and over, you’ll achieve the goals that are most important to you. If you want to create music, for instance, then specify which hours you’ll do that each day, and decide in advance exactly what you’ll do during that time and for how long (practicing instruments, composing, studying music theory, decomposing great songs, etc). Reduce everything you can into part of a routine you can trust.
If you’re a burster, then ponder how you can burst your way to your goals even faster. How quickly could you move beyond stuckness if you really committed yourself? You could start an online business in a day. Write a screenplay in a few days. Upgrade all your technology this weekend. How quickly could you create a rough draft? A prototype? Push all the unimportant stuff off your plate for a while, and focus on one project or task single-mindedly unless you’ve made a significant dent in it. Don’t stop until you’re done or you really must stop.
My favorite mode is bursting. That’s how I write — quickly and in short bursts. This is how I wrote about 1200 articles during the past 8 years. I don’t write on a set schedule; I write when I get inspired with an idea. I write at different times of day, in different locations, and on many different topics. This approach works nicely for me.
When I’ve tried to set my writing to a regular schedule, I’ve always failed to maintain it, usually because I get wrapped up in new waves of inspiration, such as a new experiment to conduct, a new trip to take, or a new friend to hang out with.

Owning Your Dominant Mode

Realize that you can achieve great success in life with either mode. Neither is better than the other. The difference mainly comes down to how you like to manage your energy.
To a plodder, a burster may appear unstable, undisciplined, and unpredictable, like a loose cannon. Similarly, a burster may regard a plodder as dull, uncreative, and tediously slow. But instead of disrespecting the other mode, it’s more helpful to respect our individual strengths — and especially to push our own strengths towards even greater expression.
In school bursters are often labeled as procrastinators. Instead of working a little bit each day on a big project, a burster will often do it all in one marathon session — and still do a decent job on the project. Doing a little each day would make a burster pull his/her hair out from sheer boredom. But bursters eventually learn that the added time pressure of leaving projects to the last minute helps them focus, and this focus lets them plow through the work more quickly than they otherwise would.
Instead of waiting for external time pressure, a burster can create a similar motivational pressure by setting inspiring goals and imagining them as real. My friend Joe Vitale is what I’d call a burster. When he gets a new product idea, he goes into burst mode and gets it done quickly, launches it, and then moves on to the next thing. He recently got into music and used his bursting strategy to create and release his first 4 albums in only 18 months. When he talks about his new products, it’s usually with great excitement, even if he’s the only one feeling it.
Most schools are set up to train and reward plodding, so people who are good at bursting may have a hard time fitting in there. I flunked out of university when I tried to go through it in plodding mode — I couldn’t handle the tediously slow pacing. But when I started over and treated my university time as a bursting experiment, including every project and assignment, I was able to graduate with two degrees in only three semesters. I’ve previously shared that story in articles like Do It Now and 10 Tips for College Students, so I won’t rehash it here. The key idea is that I had to recognize that the university program wasn’t designed for someone like me, so I adapted it to my natural bursting ability as best I could, and that allowed me to excel where I previously failed.
On the other hand, plodders also get stigmatized, albeit differently. They’re labeled as bean counters, as if their contribution is little more than pointless busywork. Plodders often get pulled into positions that require routine tasks done repeatedly, such as accounting, maintenance, or bureaucratic work. Plodders love routine, but if they embraced their love of routine more fully, they could contribute even more. An effective plodder can do more than fielding customer service calls or bagging groceries — s/he could also make some wonderful contributions to fields like art, science, medicine, and more.

Recognizing Other People’s Dominant Modes

If you work with others, then recognizing their dominant modes can be very helpful. For instance, don’t assign a project to a burster and expect him/her to work on it a little bit each day till it’s done. The burster will most likely do it in one marathon session, possibly right before the deadline. Don’t try to make bursters feel bad for not using a plodding strategy. What you regard as a stressful way to work may actually be quite stimulating and effective for them.
Similarly, don’t try to give a plodder a one-time creative project with a tight deadline that would throw their carefully crafted routine out of whack. This will only stress them out. Instead, work with a plodder to adapt new projects to their existing daily workflow, so they can do the work gradually over time and still maintain their steady, graceful rhythm.
It’s also interesting to observe these patterns in your kids. My son Kyle (age 9) seems very much like a plodder at this point. He loves his routine and resists changes to it. He likes to eat the same foods and play the same games over and over again. He says he wants to be a scientist when he grows up. Each time I make him a sandwich, he gives me feedback and a 1-10 rating on my performance, letting me know how close my efforts came to his ideal sandwich, so I can hopefully improve my sandwich making abilities over time. He says I’m improving, and he continues to patiently monitor my progress.
My daughter Emily (age 12) is clearly more of a burster. She doesn’t care so much about routine; she gets bored too easily. She likes to conduct short-term experiments. Lately she’s been seeing how late she can stay up on Friday and Saturday nights before falling asleep and noticing what effect different amounts of caffeine have on her efforts. If she likes a new book or a game, she’ll often go through it fast and move on to something else. She loves creating artwork, especially drawings and origami, in short bursts of inspiration. If I suggest something new for her to try, such as a new food she probably won’t even like, she almost always says yes to it. She even recognizes when parts of her life are becoming too repetitive, and then she seeks to break those patterns to mix things up.
If I try to treat both kids as if they have the same dominant mode, that doesn’t work very well. If I treat my daughter as a plodder, she gets very bored. If I treat my son as a burster, it stresses him out.
Of course this is oversimplified because we all have the capacity to take on different modes in different situations, but generally you’ll find that people — including children — have a preferred mode where they tend to get better results than with the opposite mode.
Do you see any areas of your life where you’re trying to achieve success with your non-dominant mode? If so, you can often improve your results tremendously by switching to your stronger mode.

Optimizing Your Work

Are you in a job that’s designed for a plodder, bored and listless because you’re really a burster? Do you crave more creative work? Do you need more variety and stimulation and less tedium and repetition? Maybe it’s time to switch jobs or positions, or work with your boss to redesign your position to allow you to burst through more creative work and do fewer routine tasks. You chose your job, so if it’s not a great fit for you, choose something else.
Or are you doing a burster’s work, but you’re really a plodder? Do you find yourself stressed out by too many new tasks dropping onto your plate in an unpredictable manner, making it impossible for you to create any semblance of routine? Would you feel better switching to a more stable job situation, one where you could optimize the heck out of an existing workflow stream? No one is stopping you from switching; there are plenty of jobs like that in the world.
If you can do work that’s better suited to your strongest mode, you’re going to be more productive. You’ll also feel much better about your work — neither too bored nor too stressed. It may take some effort to make changes, but working in a sub optimal mode for years is a big waste of your life. It’s more sensible to let that job go to someone who’s a better match for it.
On various occasions I’ve been tempted to try to create a plodder-like workflow for myself, and it’s never worked out. I usually sabotage it within a day or two. I find the predictability of it so tedious that I can’t handle it for more than a day or two. But when I embrace my bursting mode, I find that I’m able to get much more done, and I’m a lot happier with my work. For instance, in an inspired burst during the Summer of 2011, I booked 4 workshops, including 3 new ones I’d never done before. I really enjoyed bursting through this huge load of creative work, from design to delivery, one workshop at a time. It was a lot of fun and a great fit for my dominant mode. But if I tried to do the same workshop over and over again on a predictable schedule, I’d probably die of boredom. I need variety and challenge a lot more than I need stability and predictability.

Transforming Your Relationships

Are you a plodder who hates the ups and downs of dating? Maybe you’d feel better in a stable, monogamous, long-term relationship. Plodders like to lock things down into stable patterns. They’re much more likely to embrace marriage than a burster. A predictable relationship is a plodder’s dream. When a plodder latches onto a decent relationship, they may be happy to stick around for years, as long as you don’t rock the boat or mess up their routine.
Or are you a burster who enjoys relating in wave-like patterns of intense connection, followed by breaks in between? Are you the type to fall in love quickly? Do you like the intensity and stimulation of new connections and new experiences? Do you get bored and want to check out when your relationship becomes predictable? Bursters love to go with the flow of inspiration in their relationships, so they can go deep very quickly when it feels good to them. Bursters are also better suited to open relationships than plodders because of the added variety.
Is it possible that you’re a burster in one part of your life and a plodder in another? Of course. But even if you can see that’s how you’ve been in the past, you might consider trying the opposite strategy in some area just to see how that plays out. You may be surprised and find that you get better results when using the same dominant mode in each part of your life.
For many years I managed my relationship life as a plodder while favoring bursting in my professional life. This was mainly because I was in a long-term monogamous relationship for so many years. When I finally had the chance to try a more bursting-compatible relationship mode, I took to it right away and loved it. I love the pleasant surprises that come from connecting with new people. I also feel no resistance to long-distance relationships — this works well for me in practice because I enjoy the bursts of time together followed by some time apart. Some people would find this situation stressful, but I find the variety stimulating… and even peaceful and relaxing at times. By leaning into my dominant mode here, I’ve become a lot happier in this part of my life.
Once you identify your preferred relationship mode, you can seek out compatible partners who share your desires, and you can avoid trying to be someone you’re not. There’s nothing wrong with getting involved with people who have different dominant modes than you — in fact, those relationships can actually work quite well — as long as you and your partner(s) recognize and appreciate each other’s strengths and don’t try to forcibly change the other. A burster plodder relationship can be a rewarding growth experience for all involved.

Energy Management

The difference between plodding and bursting is largely a matter of how you prefer to manage your energy.
Do you like the variety of intense, short-term experiences with frequent, restorative breaks? When you get inspired with an idea, do you like to dive into it right away and go all out, so you can fully saturate yourself in the experience? When you meet someone and discover a mutual attraction, do you like to clear your schedule and dive into that connection quickly and passionately?
Or would you rather have the predictability and stability of fairly constant energy output over the long term? Do you like the daily grind, repeating the same pleasing patterns over and over again? Do you appreciate the value of routine? Do you enjoy relationships that are stable and predictable, so you always know what’s expected of you?
Again, neither approach is better than the other. You can enjoy great success and happiness with either approach. If you can identify your dominant mode and leverage it to a greater extent than you are now, you’ll likely find that you become significantly more productive, and you won’t have to struggle quite as much.

Thursday 6 December 2012

The Agelesss Secrets Review


I like reading self-help books. The wealth of information found in these books is great and useful for anyone looking to improve themselves. However, a lot of books consist of rehashed material and offer nothing new to a regular reader like myself. That said, I have taken it upon myself to write reviews for several books I have read recently, in order to give people a guide on what books are worth their money and which ones should be avoided.
The latest book I read is The Ageless Secrets, by Chris D’Cruz. As the title suggests, this book contains a great amount of information of increasing your lifespan and improving the general state of your health.
As a self-help book, The Ageless Secrets fills a pretty small niche. Most other books give general guides on being, eating and living healthy, but D’Cruz instead provides specific information on living longer. He begins by giving historical information on how people from ancient times have managed to live over a century, despite the poorer, less-sophisticated healthcare.
Surprisingly, the information he provides is factual and accurate – he isn’t just spinning stories to prove his case. He goes on to unravel the mystery of how these people managed to achieve their longevity – typically due to a combination of diet, lifestyle and exercise. He also delves into more esoteric and ‘mystical’ arts that originate from the ancient Chinese empire, and gives the readers a primer on how they can make use of these secrets for their own benefit.
The Ageless Secrets provides more specialized information on generally being healthier and feeling better, information that I have yet to find elsewhere. Several of the concepts and techniques presented in this book are unique and have not been replicated in other books. The information is also presented in a simple and concise manner and is very implemented into your daily routine.
Beyond the primary e-book, The Ageless Secrets program also consists of several smaller supplements on improving your energy levels (using the classic systems of yoga, chakra meditation and tai chi, amongst others), improving your body’s self-healing capabilities and achieving the much sought after ‘eternal youth’. These other materials, provide a very useful supplement to the main e-book, as it gives comprehensive details on how to maximize each exercise – for instance, it gives a step-by-step breakdown on how to do proper chakra meditation as well as explaining how the chakra system works.
The Ageless Secrets program promises much, but it also delivers just as much. Just from the initial exercises and dietary habits it suggests, I began to feel healthier, more energetic and alert – and only after a week. Unlike typical health manuals, The Ageless Secrets has more pronounced, immediate effect and it doesn’t take too much effort to get into. A lot of the exercise and diet changes it suggest can be implemented in your life in a matter of days and is designed to fit into any schedule.
In short, I heartily suggest picking up this book for yourself. The benefits of improved health and increased energy will give you a fresh outlook at life completely revitalize you. pick it up now, while Chris D’Cruz still has it at an affordable price.

Wednesday 5 December 2012

Personal Development Definition


At this moment in time we can and should use any and all tools available to improve our lives, yet many people wouldn’t even begin to research exactly what is their personal development definition.
For a personal development definition, one must go back to early childhood. As babies, we totally rely on our parents because we cannot meet even the most basic of our needs. The two people who brought us into the world are the ones who begin shaping our personalities, ideas and culture.
If we could go back and “choose” our parents of course we would pick those who have a higher level of consciousness and awareness so from infancy to young adult ready to leave the nest we have experienced the “perfect” life from two loving and caring parents. As life would have it no one has ever been able to pick from a list of potential parents exactly who will raise us with no suffering or pain on our part.
There is a school of thought that on a soul level we do choose our parents before we land on planet earth because they are the two from whom our life lessons will be learned that will lead us to become who we are supposed to be, for good or bad.
If life was perfect from the time of our conception until we leave the nest, we would live in a world of perfect “Stepford people,” and that might be rather boring.
Even those who live rather hard lives can become successful and happy if they choose to let go of any and all negativity associated with their childhoods and make the decision that they are now capable adults who can use the lessons they learned even if they were negative or painful and take those lessons and turn their lives into something wonderful.
Of course, there are those who dwell on their childhoods and never let go of any of the negativity of whatever they experienced and make everyone pay for how they perceive they were treated, real or not. We all have memories of negative moments while we were growing up, yet for most people it’s easier to move on and let go of the past rather than allow the past to rule and ruin your adult life.
“The past is history and the future is a mystery. That is why they call this the present.”
Grow Up and Forgive Your Parents for Doing the Best They Could
So you had a rough childhood-millions of people did and at this very moment millions of children are having a very hard time of it.
Becoming self-aware by deciding to move on will be a life-changing moment. If you forgive those who caused you pain or suffering, you are the one who wins.
Forgiveness does not negate what they did or what you believe they did to harm you, but it gives you freedom and releases you from the bonds that keep you stuck in a place you’d rather leave.
Growing up physically, mentally and emotionally, we begin to transform like a butterfly into a unique human being who would like to create something significant for themselves and others.
As we move through our lives and old age sets in, we begin to fall back into a state of dependence and hopefully if you’ve raised a good and loving family you will have the support and care from your children. In some cases where your life has been one of chaos and dysfunction with your family and others, you may find yourself at the end of life alone in a facility for the elderly and no one will at your side when you make your transition from life to death.
It’s a sad thing to be at the end of life alone when all you had to do was work on being the best person you could be and treat others with love and respect. That is definitely a time where “too little too late,” is a reality.
Unless your parents were abusive alcoholics or drug users, your father or mother spent time in prison or worse, they were probably trying to do the very best they could with the tools they had been given.
Sometimes when children grow up and leave home, they use the “abuse excuse” on their parents as weapons for decades, never noticing how hard their parents have tried over the years to be kind and make up for whatever transgressions their children felt they had experienced.
“You do the best you can do then when you know better, you do better.”
Maya Angelou
Break Out of that Rut and Go for the Gusto
So if you are feeling stuck in a rut and have an attitude of “I’m not successful because my parents abused me and I never got a break like other people did,” get over yourself, take responsibility for your actions or non-actions and find a way to improve your life through personal development.
For the most part it never crosses the mind of someone who is in a constant state of “victimhood.” They go through life blaming others and are actually jealous of successful people.
No matter what your personal development definition is, it more important today than at any other time in our history.
Millions of people are out of work and for those who have been unemployed for over two years, employers are actually tossing their applications in the garbage because those during those years without a job the one seeking employment has lost many of their skill-sets and are not current on what is going on in their former industry.
Instead of giving up, get up and move into working on yourself by seeking out personal development seminars, books, CD's, DVDs and if possible, find a mentor in the field that interests you the most and actively get to work making yourself a valuable commodity.
Those with the most passion and desire will be the ones who are noticed by potential employers and hired.
Personal development and growth will not only serve you well in the workplace but in every area of your life.
Our world is a complex place and just keeping up with everyone else is rather like being a hamster on a wheel. Relationships are not easy, whether personal or professional.
Someone who is in a constant state of self-improvement can keep up with any challenge that comes their way. An unprepared person is at the mercy of every problem that they face every day.
Without the knowledge and tools at hand to deal with anything we face, it’s nearly impossible to have a happy, successful and full life.
What Used to be is No More
It’s time to now rethink everything you’ve ever learned in order to make it in our world today. People are re-evaluating everything they know. What used to be the norm in the 60′s, 70′s and 80′s and even the 90′s is no longer valid.
No matter what your profession, nothing is the same as it was even a decade ago because technology and a paradigm shift in thought brought about change in everything.
People are becoming more aware, “waking up” if you will, about the fact that even though what is “outside” is developed we must now learn to develop what is “inside.”
Our thought patterns and becoming more conscious human beings will serve us well with all the chaos and upheaval in our world today.
We possess amazing capabilities that many have not yet tapped into. For those who begin the quest toward personal development there is no end to what can be accomplished.
There are those who are yet to be recognized who may well make incredible discoveries that could bring our planet and mankind back from the brink of disaster.
Just imagine, one of those people could be you — if you decide to step out of the box and discover your own personal development definition.

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Richard M Krawczyk avatar 100x100 Personal Development DefinitionKnown as "Mr. Blueprint", Richard M Krawczyk is a human potential expert, bestselling author, motivational keynote speaker, and business strategist. He is the founder of Success Now International, LLC - a personal and business development training and consulting company. Richard is a die-hard Chicago Cubs fan and an avid supporter of Drum Corps International - a non-profit youth activity.

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