How To Stop Caring What Others Think About You

Don't think too much

When you think you're being judged by the others, you're probably wrong. It's not easy to judge each and every person you see or meet and also keep in mind that people have their own worries, they don't have the time or desire to search for other people's flaws as well. You can test this by doing something differently and observe their reaction. Your friends or family would probably notice, but others just won't care.

Give yourself a High Five

Learn to catch yourself each time you're worrying about what others think. Remember the pattern of over-thinking and every time you do it, give yourself a compliment. That will boost your self-esteem just when it's needed to. When such moment occurs, give yourself a High 5, complimenting an aspect of your personality. Target the same thing or detail that you think people judge you about. For example: If you think that people judge you because of your loud laughter, try something like this: "I'm a happy person by nature and I'm trying to share laughter with others, which is always a good thing". See what I mean? Try to transform your over-thinking moment into a positive one.

Accept your uniqueness

Accepting yourself is not the easiest thing in a world to do. We all have our doubts and fears, but the important thing is how to manage them. When confronting with your self-doubts, this advice can help you in the process. First of all, you should write down the things you don't like about yourself. Now, take a closer look and see, if you can change them. Most things can be changed, but the main thing to remember here is your willingness to change. For example, if you want to lose weight, all you need is a little knowledge and a lot of determination. But it can be done much easier than you might think.

There are also some things that can't be changed, such as being taller. However, think the other way. Situation could be worse, right? Right. Accept things you cannot change and change those things you can change. Don't think about things you can't change, because that's just a waste of time. Besides, as the time passes by, you'll learn that some of those things aren't that important at all.

So, what have you learned here? I hope you've learned that people usually don't care as much as you think they do. You've learned that many things can be changed with a little determination and positive thinking. But most importantly, you've learned that the only opinion that really matters by the end of the day, is yours.

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Overcome Shyness - Two Easy Ways To Get Rid Of Nervousness

In our modern culture, everyone is focused on becoming more social, popular, and liked--since all of these personality traits come with many benefits. Extroverted people generally have more friends, fun and success than introverts. They also tend to suffer from loneliness and depression less. Becoming more outgoing and social is about living life to the fullest, unafraid to express yourself or go after what you want in life. Since being extroverted has so many benefits to it, it makes sense to want to get rid of your shyness.

Getting your conversation skills up to speed is one quick and easy way to start becoming less introverted. In particular, you want to start becoming more impulsive in what you say. While there are some situations, like job interviews, where you want to be very careful about what you say, in most you should focus on talking more often and more spontaneously. This is going to sound bad, but try not to think too much before you speak in informal social situations. If you put too much effort into everything you say, you'll come across as a try-hard. By being spontaneous and just letting the words flow, you become easy-going, which is what people like.

In some situations you can probably already talk to people easily and spontaneously. It could be around your family, your niece or nephew, or talking to a close friend. However, when around people you don't know well or are intimidated of, you aren't able to act the same way. Your shyness gets in the way. A lot of the time, this issue can fix itself through gradual exposure. An intimidating stranger soon become a close friend if you hang around him several times. By spending more time with people you'll start to get the hang of talking to strangers. Believe it or not, how well you make conversation is not a talent you were born with, but a skill set. Just like riding a bicycle, the more you practice this skill set the better you will become and the easier you'll find it to be relaxed around new people

In lowering your levels of nervousness when talking to people, there are many useful techniques to help you relax. Relaxation has the effect of demonstrating to your brain that there is nothing to be afraid of in this situations, which makes your brain's anxiety lessen. You want that: nothing kills feelings of nervousness and anxiety faster than physical relaxation.

Your relaxation routine should be structured in a way that gets you the maximum results in overcoming shyness. It is not an event, it is a process. It is more effective to implement relaxation as a new routine rather than try it out one time incorrectly when you are in the middle of a full-blown anxiety attack. It will be the compounding of accumulated change that yields the most substantial results. Set aside some time every day to practice relaxation. This will let you become relaxed when you are feeling at your most tense and nervous around people.

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Make Your Life an Exciting Journey of Discovery

When is the right time to begin something new, to break your routine and begin a new adventure? It could be a new business endeavor, moving, or a change in relationship status. It could be a spiritual practice. It might even be taking a vacation for an extended period of time giving you a chance to create a new paradigm for your life.

Think about what goes into getting away. You have to block out a period of time and you have concerns that while you're gone, things will fall apart without you or you'll miss out on that big opportunity.

Changing our patterns for a period of time takes practice. It involves leaving the familiar and exploring new territory, which isn't always comfortable. And there is always that critical voice of judgment that you wish you could silence. "You're not being practical. Wait until the economy picks us. Wait until "this" happens, the "this" being something that might or might not happen in the future. So we hesitate and don't take action. We never reach our full potential. A year goes by and then another and nothing has changed.

There are always going to be voices that get in the way of our moving forward in our lives especially if that is what we focus on. We have to keep filling our tanks on a daily basis with inspiration. Inside of us is another voice that I call the Voice of Inspiration and Praise, VIP, that says, "Yes, you can. You can do it, go for it." The voice that reminds you to have faith that it's all going to work out.

The challenge is to recognize and listen to it. It doesn't necessarily show up in the way we expect and is more prevalent than we realize. It's a voice, an attitude that needs to be cultivated on a daily basis.

As you know I'm a firm believer in synchronicity-those chance encounters that change your life, those remarkable meetings. When I was a young lawyer, one evening a friend told me of a magical swimming hole along a river in Humboldt County. I had just resolved a case that was set for trial and had nothing on my schedule for the next week. I got my car ready, filled up the tank and off I went with my guitar, my dog, and sleeping bag and drove north, arriving at the river just as the sun was setting.

In the morning I awoke at the crack of dawn in search of the swimming hole. I knew that if I hiked upstream I would get there. I continued on my way until a camper offered me some food and coffee. Although I found myself getting hungry and a little bit tired, I said, "No thanks" to the kind invitation, "I want to get to the swimming hole."
After another twenty yards I turned around and said, "That coffee sounds good."

I enjoyed the breakfast. As it turned out, the camper had a guitar and we played music for quite some time. I was full in more ways than one. After thanking the camper, I was ready to be on my way. It was what the camper said in the next few moments that has perhaps made the greatest impact in my life.

"Hey man, the journey you take is probably more important than your destination. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy the journey." I enjoyed the rest of the hike and the swimming hole was fabulous.

Since that meeting, I have taken his advice to heart. It has affected every aspect of my life. There's no better time than now to enjoy your life and experience it as an exciting journey of discovery. Instead of waiting for that ideal relationship, enjoy life exactly as it is. Instead of feeling despair about finding meaning and purpose in your life, enjoy the inquiry. Instead of waiting for that big opportunity, enjoy what you're doing.

There will always be something in the way, which if you focus on it, will affect your ability to enjoy life. You will be tested repeatedly in some manner. Each day you'll have to renew your commitment, but eventually it becomes a way of life. There are eight daily practices and rituals that have supported me on my journey.

1. Take time each day for quiet reflection in the morning including expressing gratitude. It sets the tone for the day.

2. While driving in your car, listen to motivational or conscious music, rather than listening to the news or what's on the various am stations.

3. Make sure that on a daily basis you are in contact with people who inspire and support you. Don't hesitate to take the first step and reach out.

4. Take time to commune in nature.

5. Eat healthy; drink plenty of water and get exercise. This is a choice that you make over and over again that eventually becomes a healthy habit.

6. Don't forget to smile and make sure you make someone else smile.

7. In the evening, take some time to read a personal growth or spiritual book, even if it's just for a few minutes.

8. Reflect upon the most special moment of the day as you are falling asleep. No matter what happened during the day, you have a choice as to how you think about it.

So there you have it. When are you planning your next adventure? You know I love to hear from you. Feel free to share Letters on Life with those in your circle.

Enjoy the journey,

Mark

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Who Are THEY?

"There is just one life for each of us: our own." ~Euripides

I'm sure you've heard the expression, "You know what they say?" Who are THEY? I've heard it a hundred times. They say that people should do this or that. Or, they say this is right and that is wrong. They say a lot of stuff but who died and made them boss?

There are no rules that mandate that you have to live by what they say. Of course, they say we should live by the Golden Rule -Do unto others, and I actually have to agree with them this one time. But when it comes to your own personal choices, what do YOU say?

There is no law that says you have to grow up, get married and have children otherwise you won't be happy. But many people seem to believe that to be true. Who says you can't be happy without getting married and having a family?

There is also no law that says just because someone does something one way that their way is right and yours is wrong.

For instance, let's say you're a picky eater. And you're with someone that likes to try all kinds of new and different foods. There you are dining out and you don't want to try the Lizard's Eyes in Champagne Sauce because it just doesn't sound very appetizing to you. Your friend says to you, "Oh, I can't believe you won't try it, you are such a picky eater."

So, who cares if you're a picky eater? (Apparently, they do.) It's not like you're saying to them. "Oh, I can't believe you're going to eat that, you're NOT a picky eater." They say you should try new foods and experience new cuisines. Again, who are they to tell you what to do?

When someone tries to push their opinions on you they act as if there is something wrong with you because you should do it the way THEY think you should. When in reality you are perfect just the way you are with all of your likes, dislikes, habits, little idiosyncrasies and the way you do things is just fine.

I say, "You be you and I'll be me."

If I want to watch T.V. and you don't. Then don't. If you want to eat anything that crosses your path then by all means eat it and Bon Appetit!

But don't try and make me be any different than I am because I like who I am and I'm sorry you don't. And vice versa, you have no business trying to change someone to be who you want them to be because as you probably already know, the only person you can change is you.

Unless someone is hurting you by their behavior or they're abusive on some level; simply let them be who they are. (If they are hurting you, it's time to set boundaries, but that's another issue altogether).

By accepting people with all of their so called faults, if that's what you want to call them, you take the pressure off of you for not liking what they do or don't do and you take it off of them so they can just be who they are. And then everyone is happy!

The truth is that when people let go of judgment, condemnation and criticisms it frees you and them to live in harmony and you know what THEY say, "The truth will set you free."

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