Why Average People Remain Average By Patric Chan

If you do what you're expected to do, don't expect an outstanding result, my friend.

Study successful people and you'll sure to discover one thing that many of them would have in common... they live by that words of “always do more than what is expected of you”

I don't care. It could be sleeping an hour less everyday to have more time to build your wealth or whatsoever.

Whether you are mowing people's lawn or someone is mowing your lawn, when you are teaching a seminar or being a participant, or when sharing your knowledge or giving advice to your people, always do or give more than what people expect. Then they will flock around you, they will line up to meet you and be happy to support you in whatever thing that you want to do next.

If you're training to be a champion, don't just train like an average player. Train more than you're expected to train.

If you're building a multi-level marketing business, increase the numbers of prospects you would like to meet everyday. If it used to be 10, now you would have at least 12. By just increasing your effort 20%, you'll end up with 60 new prospects a month. Now, that's what I called exponential.

Trying to win a girl's heart? I'm not surprise that you could be “competing” with three other guys for the same girl. And you can only win if you're giving more than all of them if everyone's equal. I'm not saying giving more money or buying stuff' give love, time or whatever that counts to her.

Whenever you are interacting with people or in a relationship, treat the other party extremely well.

Whatever is expected of you in that relationship, be it with your girlfriend or business partner or client, your spouse or your friend, always do or give more than what is expected of you in that relationship for that is the secret of making it a success. It is not that you have to do or give a whole lot more; you have to do just a little bit more than the rest. That's it. The 10mm-difference is what Anthony Robbins calls it for you to become outstanding... in any undertaking.

To do this, it's not difficult. But most people are just too lazy to put in the effort. I'm one of them but I'll always keep reminding myself this' winner takes all. There is no second place, my friend. I would rather strive with the extra effort to get #1 because the pay off is many times greater.

Do you remember who the second best basketball player is? Nope. You can remember Michael Jordan because he's #1. In fact, as far as I know, there's no such place as 'the second best basketball player'.

Who's the second fastest runner in the world? Who knows. I just know the #1.

Others have called this 'more than expected attitude' as 'going for the extra mile'. Notice that they don't say the extra 10 miles.

How come?

Because the average persons don't bother to do more than what is expected of them. I know it's sad but that's the truth.

To most people, "always do more than what is expected of you" are mere words and they don't put substance to it because people are greedy and they just want to do the bare minimum to make money, to make a profit or whatever.

And guess what... successful people are never your average persons.

To be generous and to treat others extremely well, you must come from the perspective of abundance thinking. Then only “always doing more than what is expected of you” will come easy and naturally.

So the next time you are with somebody, or in a business negotiation, or just interacting with another person, ask how can I help you... without even expecting any return.

As the other saying goes-- you have to give, in order to get. In fact, if you want to gather riches you have to be as generous as you can. Touch people's lives profoundly, in ways that they would never forget. Give it forward... help another and that person will help another. Always do more than what is expected of you. Do this and the reward will come to you 10 folds or 100 folds when you are least expecting it.

Do you think you can do more than what you're doing today? Of course you can. The question is... DO YOU WANT OR NOT? You'll have to decide for your own future on that.

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Patric Chan is an international speaker, author and the creator of Success Trace. Find out how you can use his secrets to massively accelerate your wealth and success,

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Self Reliance

What is Self Reliance? How do You Gain Self Reliance?
A basic definition and explanation for the average person seeking self improvement.

I sometimes read passages and ideas that seem original and not repetitive of anyone else’s ideas written or spoken previously. As the reader you or I sometimes hear an echo in those original ideas of our own sense of values. The only difference may be that someone else has thought to write it down and thus record those thoughts and values as their own. Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote of self reliance; “to believe in your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, -- that is genius”. For anyone to state their personal belief as though it is or could be the belief of other people transforms their personal truth into becoming a more universal truth.
Transversely in every work of genius we may recognise our own rejected thoughts. They come back to us with an oddly alienated recollection, we say to ourselves “I thought that once”. This teaches us to rely on our original impression or else tomorrow another person will say with authority precisely what we thought or felt today and we will be forced to humbly take our opinion from someone else. Although the world is full of great ideas nothing can satisfy us as much as our own thoughts and conclusions. No one but you knows what original thoughts you are capable of. There is power within you to be new and original and it can only be realized and executed by your own will. To half express yourself or to feel shameful of the great theology which only you can represent is, indeed, to fail yourself.

The Effort to Gain Self Reliance

You will be joyful when you have put your heart into your work and have done your best. You may have had this experience at some time in your life. But to give less than your best efforts will not give you that same feeling of satisfaction. You might then lose faith in yourself and in your abilities should what you set out to do or say be left incomplete. Trust yourself. Great men have always done so. Just as children are fearless in accepting their own ideas you can shine as brightly and freely in your original thoughts and embrace a youthful enthusiasm for your own exceptionality. We should make efforts to not allow intimidation or internal doubt to stifle our own good ideas or prevent us from sharing our inner brilliance with others.

Forms of opposition will always arise. People sometimes busy themselves with evaluating the weight of their opposition to an extent that they may doubt the strength their own truth. Even if your message is lost in language barriers it is no less valid. You may have the strength to deliver your platform to your own group but falter with a different audience. This is not the fault of your beliefs or convictions. Communication barriers can be overcome. As your own truth is repeated it will become clearer and more defined;, recognisable even to those who did not hear it the first time. By focusing on our inner strength and positive feedback we can find the inner strength to become and remain true to ourselves building our self reliance.

One Voice in the Crowd

I have been referring to those voices one hears in the solitude of their own heart. Self reliance thus becomes the enemy of conformity. Society would have us each assimilate to the greater ideals and to lose our own self reliance to a greater concept. To follow your own voice fearlessly you may be labelled a nonconformist but nothing will ever be as sacred to you as the integrity of your own voice. To know your inner voice and not confuse it with any other voice is to develop and know a higher self. To live wholly from within is to come to know your truest self. Following what you know to be right regardless of what influences come from society or colleagues will ground you to your own sense of goodness. This is the development of your personal values.

Your Goodness Must have Some Edge To It

Society may present you with laws and guides; but if they are in conflict with you your own inner decency must have a greater voice. If in your mind there is no goodness in the publications of others do not bend for the sake of acceptance. Stand firm to what you feel is in the right. Be open to discussion and yet as clear as possible in your own communications. If a cause or idea is constructed out of fear or hatred and you recognise it to be that way and not born from goodness you should neither let it taint your own good virtue or allow it to silence your goodness with fear or hatred.

The greater task will be to recognise what is of concern to you. There are always going to be those who feel they know your duty better than you know it yourself. You will feel your own inner strength when you can stand independent in your own thoughts in the midst of the crowd. Do not expect to be understood by all and do not think that those who understand you today will understand tomorrow or that those who do not understand today will not understand tomorrow. Everyone has their own voice and their own experiences. Self reliance involves trusting in your own voice and your own virtue even in opposition by one or by many.

The Ones Without Self

Men may become meek and apologetic who lose themselves to the crowd. You will not know happiness and inner strength if you surrender those things to the crowd and lose your own individuality. Should you adopt the view of the greater voice without also firmly having a voice of your own you may easily be drawn into the mentality of the mob. When the mob voice is heard within a person louder than their own inner voice the whole world will appear to be in conspiracy for lack of individuality. To be in the crowd yet build your inner voice and your inner strength as an individual who recognises right-mindedness you will not be devalued in your time.

Your inner voice, your virtues, and your self reliance are things that grow within you. It is up to each individual to nurture them within their own experience and protect them from corruption and negativity. They are yours alone not to be diluted in the press of society. Be yourself, speak your truth, and trust yourself and self reliance will become and remain a great part of who you are. This is needed to recognise the strength that lives within you and keep it firmly there by your own goodness and your truest voice. By this practice you will find your inner self and develop reliance in your own worth.

http://suite101.com/article/self-reliance-a407806

The Art of Balancing Self-Love and Self-Improvement

It has been said in the Hindu tradition that we are blessed with 1,000 gifts. Whether or not this is true, surely the idea of that statement moves us to look at what gifts we do have, instead of the gifts that we are always searching to get. I'm not referring here to the material kinds of gifts, but instead the innate gifts that each individual has been born and blessed with. Can we consider these gifts each of us possess, be grateful for them and commit to sharing them as part of our divine purpose -- while simultaneously improving ourselves both personally and spiritually? I believe we can, with a little practice.

It's natural to want to improve ourselves, whether it's through healing, learning, growing or any other means. Our soul craves new experiences and therefore moves us in the direction toward the change it seeks. Yet our spirit -- our divine self -- knows we are already perfect, whole and complete. In spite of this, we often allow our soul's desire to lead the way and either forget about or simply discount our spiritual perfection within, thereby ending up on a "transformation treadmill" where we are constantly working towards becoming "better." Too much value and worth is placed upon some "future you" and not enough (or any for that matter) on the present you. And in doing so, your self-love, self-worth and self-value forever remain as something you've yet to earn. This dead-end pattern leaves you feeling discouraged and exhausted, to say the least.

It's much less damaging (and much more beneficial) to bring your self-loving spirit into balance and alignment over your soul's desire for improvement. Let your spirit lead the way instead of your soul by reflecting on those very gifts you currently possess. Then, move onto whatever improvement your soul seeks. I have found the best way to do this is by first loving and valuing yourself as you are now. Write down all the gifts, talents, and positive attributes you have. Then begin affirming your value in each one by stating it out loud. Affirmations such as, "I value my gift to encourage others" or "I value my gift of cooking," etc. If you are having a hard time naming your gifts, think about those things you share with others that make you feel good. What can you do that you love to share? What gifts and talents do you have that others appreciate in you? What comes naturally for you? Be mindful not to judge -- that would defeat the purpose.

You can also try meditating to connect with your spirit. If you have never meditated before, you can practice basic meditation with my four principles of grounding, breathing, releasing and receiving. To ground yourself, put your feet flat on the floor and imagine the entire earth supporting you. Next, breathe deeply in through the nose and exhale out through the mouth. As you breathe, imagine you are releasing all tension and worry on exhaling. And once you feel all that has been released, imagine you are receiving your spirit in your body on your inhale. When you are ready, ask your spirit to bring to mind one gift at a time and write it down. Again, don't judge what you receive. Trust your spirit.

The more attention you place on your gifts, the more you begin appreciating and valuing them. As you start to value these gifts, you become much more loving and compassionate toward yourself, leaving any prior harshness behind. Allow your spirit to gently and lovingly guide your soul toward the experiences it seeks. Allow your spirit to lead the way for your soul, not the other way around. This helps you get off the "transformation treadmill." From this self-loving place of your spirit, you can continue your soul's quest toward self-improvement without self-deprecation. You'll find that your journey will be easier and much more enjoyable, too.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/pamela-dussault/self-improvement_b_2121992.htm

6 Powerful Ways to Overcome Fear (And Craft the Lifestyle of Your Dreams)

You want to follow your dreams.

You want to live the lifestyle you know you deserve.

Yes, the one you’re secretly afraid of following.

But something is holding you back, or so you believe.

What if I told you that nothing is holding you back?

You’d probably roll your eyes, right?

But it’s true. Nothing is holding you back. You can have the life you want, and more. And in this article you’ll discover how.

1. Listen to Your Heart

You know that subtle inner voice of wisdom that you have?

Yeah, it’ll guide you to your life purpose, if you are willing to listen to it.

The problem is that that wise voice is often covered up by the fearful, doubtful voice. When you calm down and really listen, you’ll know what steps to take.

It’s not easy, but everyone has that internal guiding mechanism.

That means you, too.

So use it.

2. Willingness to Move Forward

You have to be willing to move forward, even when you’re afraid.

You have to be willing to start your journey before you’re ready.

The stars will not align. Things will not be handed to you on a silver platter. You just have to start.

If you don’t know where to start, it doesn’t matter what you do, because all paths will lead you there.

And if you discover that you’re heading down the wrong path, you course correct. In the end, you cannot know if making a mistake now is exactly what needs to happen for you to realize your dreams.

3. Tiny Steps

Fear comes up when you try to do too much all at once.

Yes, dream big, but also be practical. For example, don’t think about starting a business, think about what the next smallest step would be.

What can you do right now to get the ball rolling? Maybe it’s simply starting a blog and seeing what happens. Or maybe it’s calling up a friend who can point you in the right direction.

You know you’ve found the right step to take because it feels doable.

4. Break Free

Break free from the shackles of your mind.

Notice that you are not your thoughts. You may have thoughts of fear, doubt and anxiety, but if you can stay as the awareness behind it all, your thoughts no longer hold the same power over you.

You are not the dance. You are the dance floor.

Never forget that. It’s because of you that the drama of life is possible. Enjoy the fears and challenges in your life, because they are what make life exciting.

And also enjoy the fact that life has a tendency to live itself. You don’t have to figure anything out or control life, because it’ll live itself.

5. Build Presence Power

Anchor yourself in the present moment.

Pretend that you don’t have a past or future, because in reality, you don’t. All you have is the present moment.

Notice what’s here, right now. Feel your body. Be aware of the sounds around you. And tap into the joy of what’s already here.

You already have everything you need to be happy. And when you operate from this place of stillness and peace, your life will change.

6. Perfect Average Day

Last, but not least, grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down what your perfect average day looks like.

Who do you want to be with?

What kind of thoughts do you want to think?

Where do you live?

What do you want to do?

What do you want to eat?

Let go of any preconceived notions and let it all flow.

Get some clarity and let go of fear.

The Takeaway

The most important thing you can take away from this article is this: you are not your fears.

Your fears do not hold you back from anything. No one holds you back from crafting the lifestyle of your dreams, or building a business around your passion.

The only person holding you back is you.

When you can reclaim responsibility for your life, you will be free.

However, most people aren’t ready.

Are you?

http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/6-powerful-ways-to-overcome-fear-and-craft-the-lifestyle-of-your-dreams/#more-11890

Importance of Personal Development

Personal development is the act or process of understanding and developing oneself in order to achieve one’s fullest potential. Personal development is a vital part in a person’s growth, maturity, success and fulfillment. It is the foundation of mature personality, better relationship, happiness, success and prosperity.

Unfortunately, however, not everyone is aware of the importance of personal development. It was not given much attention at home, work or in school. People give more importance to academic and professional achievement rather than personal growth. This has caused a lot of emotional struggles that many people go through in life because they lack the soft skills which are crucial to one’s success and happiness. Such lack of self-understanding and principle-centered way of living blocks one’s ability to live an enjoyable and successful life.

I admit that I didn’t know the importance of personal development until I was privileged to attend one personal development training back in 2008. Before that event, I was living my life focused on achieving corporate success in my career as professional accountant. I was eager to achieve career and professional growth that I neglected all the other areas of my life, such as physical health, social relationship, financial growth and stability, and emotional growth. My career-driven lifestyle resulted for me to live a stressful, tiring and boring life. I was easily irritated, I complain a lot and I always see the negative side of things rather than the positive. I was too strong-willed and closed-minded that it was too hard to cross a point with me.

All these attitudes and actions changed when I learned about personal development. The change is what I often refer to as a great “turning point” in my life. Such turning point created so much positive transformation with who I am and how I live my life now. It turned my negative and closed mindset into an open and positive one. I minimized complaining on what life brings, and instead, I started to see life as my own blueprint. I became more practical and realistic that lessens my idealism and perfectionism. I became much conscious on how I spend my time that which helped me prioritize and minimize fatigue. These changes cannot happen if I ignored personal development.

If you find yourself feeling negative all the time, and you can’t stop complaining with a lot of things, I encourage you to start learning and understanding personal development.

Here are some of the reasons why personal development is important:

It helps you understand yourself better
It assist you in creating your goals and life purpose
It guides you in managing and spending your time effectively
It enhances your ability to handle stress, adversity and change
It supports you in managing your finances more wisely
It teaches you to build better relationship with people
It allows you to live a balanced lifestyle
It provides an opportunity to take care of your health.

Imagine personal development is like a plant. If you take care of it by giving it the reasonable amount of water, sunlight and soil, it will grow into a healthy and beautiful tree. But if you neglect it and won’t pay attention to what kind of nourishment it needs, then expect that plant to get dry and eventually die.

Personal development is like how you nurture of a plant. If you don’t recognize the importance of personal development, you will continue living through life’s hard circumstances feeling like a victim instead of a victor. You will stick to your belief that you cannot do something to change and improve your situation. As such, you will continue complaining and being negative with almost everything in your life. You will constantly feel lost with your own life purpose, struggling to find who you are and what you want to become.

But if you open yourself in learning personal development, you will experience a great leap in your life. You will start to become more positive in your outlook, you will be more proactive rather than reactive, you will start to create your life rather than letting circumstance create it, you will be able to find your own purpose and enjoy your life to its fullest.

Remember,

“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self. So you have to begin there, not outside, not on other people. That comes afterward, when you’ve worked on your own corner.” –Aldous Huxley.

http://daphnegan.wordpress.com/2011/12/20/importance-of-personal-development/